A person with high EQ doesn't often criticize people.
一个情商高的人，不会总是去批评别人。
That's because criticizing usually doesn't solve any problem.
因为批评往往并不解决任何问题。
Everybody wants to solve problems.It's just that many people don't know how.And criticizing doesn't change this.
每个人都希望能解决问题，只是很多人并不知道怎么做，而批评并不能解决这种现状。
Someone with high EQ knows this well.So they only make criticism when they can provide their solutions.
情商高的人知道这一点，所以他们只在能提出解决方案的时候才会给出批评。
And they don't merely criticize.They will tell you how to make things better.
而且他们不会只批评，他们会说出怎样让现状变好。
A person who does nothing but criticizing is just trying to find himself a sense of superiority.
一个仅仅只知道批评的人，其实是在给自己找优越感。
Someone with high EQ also knows how to see things from other people's perspectives.
情商高的人还懂得从别人的角度看问题。
It's not only taking care of others'feelings.It's also a means of getting what you want.
这不单单只是照顾别人的感情，它也可以是一种达成目的的手段。
Nobody really cares about what you want.And that's why merely asking for things usually won't get you those things.
没有人真正在乎你想得到什么，所以单纯的索要通常不能让你得到你想要的东西。
If you want someone to help you,you should think about what his needs are and figure out how to make him think it's good for him to help you.
想要获得别人的帮助，你就该想想对方的需求，然后想想怎样让他们觉得帮助你是一件有利可图的事情。
Someone with high EQ also knows how to listen to others.
一个情商高的人还懂得倾听别人的话。
This is not just about manners.
这不光是一种礼貌的表现。
It's a kind of philosophy of living.
这也是一种处世哲学。
One person's mind is inevitably limited in some way.Knowing how to listen to others can broaden your horizon.
一个人的想法是有局限性的，善于倾听他们的声音能让你的思维更广阔。
A person with high EQ knows this just so well.
而情商高的人深深地懂得这一点。
There will never be anyone else like you in the future of the universe.That's why being yourself is more important than anything else.
宇宙中再不会有一个人和你一样。这就是为什么做自己比什么都重要。
That's how life works:two steps forward,followed by one-and-a-half back as those who lost their power try to reverse the process.
生活就是这样：向前迈两步，接着后退一步半，而失去权势的人努力想要逆转这个顺序。
Those who benefit most from the status quo are naturally the least interested in change,and they find allies in the fearful and the authoritarian.Conformity always includes a threat of punishment if you fail to fit in,whether it comes from ridicule,being shunned by others,or direct attack.
从现状得益最多的人自然是最不希望改变的，他们与畏首畏尾者还有权威主义者结成联盟。如果你不能适应随大流，遵从一致往往有遭惩罚的风险，或是受人奚落，或是别人避之不及，甚至是受到直接攻击。
There’s a more fundamental power behind the urgency with which authoritarian conservatives seek to suppress individuality.That power is lack of trust.Wise leaders and outstanding thinkers are alike in two things:they’re usually non-conformists—and they display a deep trust in the basic goodness,intelligence,and capacity for development of their fellow human beings.
权威主义派的保守者急不可耐要压抑个性有其更为根本的原因，那就是缺乏信任。明智的领导和杰出的思想家有两点是相似的：他们不随大流，他们对他人的本善、才智和能力发展表现出高度信任。
In stark contrast,the most determined proponents of conformity have always been dictatorships.Under a dictatorship,any kind of variation from prescribed ways of thinking or acting is punished.Conservative thinkers often suggest too much freedom will lead to anarchy and the collapse of all standards.
与之对照鲜明的是，顺从最为顽固的要素在于独裁专制。在独裁控制下，凡有悖既定思维和有违既定行为者都会受到惩处。保守派思想常告诫，过度自由会引发混沌无序、会破坏标准。
Being who and what you are is the most natural thing there is.There may be a cost.Some people,even some friends,will disapprove of you as you truly are and will let you know it.There will be setbacks along the way.Yet the price for being yourself can never be as great as the price you will pay for stepping aside from your basic nature:a price paid in frustration,dissatisfaction,and the hopeless realization of all that you might have been,but now can never attain.
做自己是最自然的事情。也许会有代价，一些人，有些甚至是朋友，会不认可真实的你，并且告诉你，一路都会有挫折。但做自己的代价永远不会像违背你的本心代价那么大，背离自我的代价是挫败感、不满不悦、曾经可以企及的目标和愿望，如今却无望实现。
Take up the challenge.Conformity has very little to recommend it.Trust yourself and trust others.Mediocrity and inner frustration are the true price of conforming.Only those with the courage openly to live their dreams can ever hope to find lasting satisfaction with their lives.
接受挑战吧。循规蹈矩没什么可以褒奖的。相信自己，相信他人。平庸无才和内心挫折才是默守陈规真正的代价。只有敢于实现梦想、心怀勇气的人才能在生命中获得源源不断的满足感。
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